Initially, I started this blog as a way of documenting my writing and the books I have read. Since having Teddy, I haven’t done much writing at all, and the books I read during maternity leave (for the most part) were when I was nap trapped and tended to be about babies. It was all very brand new and confusing to me, and I seemed to think I would find all answers in the books. I now know that most of what I have learnt was discovered by getting used to things and finding my own feet. However, I did read some really useful books the first year of Teddy’s life.
1.
The Day-By-Day Baby Book by Dr Ilona
Bendefy
This book provides a bit of new info for each day of the first year. I really liked having a bitesize piece of information to read each day. It also had a number of useful tips that I was totally not aware of. For instance, really useful information about finances and what you are entitled to. It also made me aware of the vitamins Teddy was supposed to have as I hadn’t been told this by any of the midwives (for example, how he was supposed to be having vitamin d supplements and then vitamins A, C and D once he started solids). It was a lot of little extra things like that where I wouldn’t have had a clue- this book was really helpful and not overwhelming due to the way it is split up-and I definitely needed something easier to process in those early days.
2.
The Montessori Baby by Junnifa Uzodike and
Simone Davies
I read this book way too late. I think Teddy was around
about 7 months. I wish I had read it when I was pregnant, but I had no idea what
Montessori was until I was doom scrolling on Instagram throughout the endless
night feeds.
To sum it up, Montessori emphasises a child's natural desire
to learn, and their ability to learn independently.
I like a lot of the concepts it holds, such as:
- Guiding Teddy, but encouraging him to choose his own
tasks and learning pace- I love the idea of watching him play and following his
interests rather than ‘forcing’ certain ways of play or interests upon him.
Once I see him take an active interest in something, I can then look at ways of
encouraging that interest- however it is totally led by him. I feel like it has
really allowed him to flourish as an individual and I love seeing his unique
personality emerge as he gets older.
-Real world skills and independence- I always wish that I
could be more independent. I am definitely overly reliant on people in my life
and find it hard to ‘adult’ day to day- pretty embarrassing when I am in my
thirties and have an almost 2 year old. Montessori encourages independence from
a young age. This can mean things need to be modified so Teddy is able to
achieve independence (and I haven’t gone to the extreme with this- I have only
done what I feel suits us as a family), but I also offer him an element of
choice (where possible) and encourage him to help out with day to day ‘adult’
activities. He loves sorting the washing, putting things in the bin and ‘wiping
up.’
-Creativity- who wouldn’t want to encourage their little one
to be creative and curious?
Plus, to be fair, a lot of it is just aesthetically
pleasing- and it is nice to have a bit of that amongst the chaos, mess and
mayhem of a survival mode with an infant. For example, our open toy shelves
(although they don’t always stay like this) can be arranged in a nice way, but
also means Teddy can clearly see what toys he can choose to play with, and I
can rotate the toys every now and then so he doesn’t get bored. Yes, he does
have a tendency to pull every single toy off the shelf, however finally, at 20
months, he does seem to be starting to understand the concept of ‘tidying away’
between each activity- which we are encouraging him to do independently
(important life skill!).
Similarly, his bookshelf isn’t overwhelming, I usually pick
a theme and have one book per section of the bookshelf and will rotate as and
when I think we need to. Teddy loves being able to choose his book each night
before bed and bring it to the chair to read it.
I mentioned I wish I had read The Montessori Baby sooner-
mainly because I wish I had started a lot of the Montessori stuff from the very
start. I feel like a topponcino might have helped with transferring Teddy when
he slept. And, although I do not regret babywearing and feel that the kangaroo
care style best suited me and Teddy, I do appreciate the Montessori messages
around putting Teddy down and letting him have freedom of movement and
exploration. I wish I did more of this, but then at the same time, I do
remember really trying and him just screaming as soon I tried. So, part of me
does think that must depend on the temperament of the baby.
The Montessori Baby also has a list of activities and toys
for each age which is split into fine motor skills, gross motor skills and
social and communication- so therefore, gives wonderful ideas of different
activities I could do to support with developing skills at all different points
of Teddy’s baby and infanthood,
The book also has lots of ideas on how to set up your home
in more of the Montessori style (as mentioned with the toy and bookshelves). We
also have a little crafts table for Teddy, an area for him to get dressed in
his coat and shoes when we are getting ready to go outside and a reading/
bookshelf area where he has pictures which are more at his level so he can sit
and look at them when he is choosing his books.
3.
What to expect in the first year by Heidi
Murkoff
This book has a wealth of information. What I like most
about it is that I can find almost anything I am wondering about in the index
and there will be some advice or information about it which is very handy.
4.
Baby Play For Every Day: 365 activities
for the first year by Dr Claire Halsey
This is such a cute book and one of my favourites. Like The
Day-by-Day Baby Book I found it easy and manageable because it was one new
idea for play each day, so it was a quick read, easy to process and gave me
ideas for things I could do with Teddy. The play aspect is tricky when they are
so little. I was probably too concerned with wanting to entertain him. I
think if I did it again, I wouldn’t be as worried about ‘entertaining him’ as I
have now realised that life in general is new and exciting and sensory to them-
I don’t need to be doing anything special. And I would like to think I would
appreciate the very simple and basic needs of a newborn now that I have a
constantly-on-the-go toddler. But saying all that, this book has such lovely
ideas. And I do feel some of the ideas have genuinely helped Teddy with his
development- and have turned into some of his favourite games and things we do
even now. They have some fantastic ideas for first sensations, visual
stimulation and engaging ways to encourage movement and language.
5.
The Montessori Book for Babies and Toddlers by Maria
Stampfer
Again, I purchased this a bit later on when Teddy was closer
to 9 or 10 months. It has some fantastic Montessori styled ideas for play
presented in a clear, simple way. I have put a picture of a couple of examples
below