Tuesday, 17 October 2023

Top 5 books to read when pregnant

 DISCLAIMER: I have always been a book worm and love to research and learn about new things so naturally, I gravitated towards pregnancy books, however I know that this style of learning isn’t for everyone and obviously nothing can truly 100% prepare you for the unknown of childbirth and raising your baby.

1.      Hypnobirthing: Practical Ways to Make Your Birth Better by Siobhan Miller

Has to take number one spot as it was my number one support during labour. I had heard people mention hypnobirthing before but assumed (as I think a lot of people do) it had something to do with hypnosis or was more for people who are into tarot and horoscopes and things like that- which I can be quite sceptical of.  Therefore, to be honest, I did purchase this book with some scepticism, however at the same time wanted to be open to all modes of childbirth and pain relief so I could make the best informed decision (as I really didn’t have a clue at all). The way the book is styled and written meant it was really easy to dip into it after a long, hard day at work and not feel like it was information overload. And almost as soon as I started reading, it totally made sense. I had gotten hypnobirthing entirely wrong. I forget how powerful the mind can be, particularly when it comes to pain, so it totally makes sense to mentally prepare (as well as physically) prepare yourself for birth as they both work hand in hand. I had always been quite frightened of the idea of childbirth pre-pregnancy (my only knowledge of it coming from dramatized shows and movies which definitely didn’t help at all) but when it came to actually giving birth (even knowing Teddy was breech and the potential risks surrounding a VBB) I felt that what I learnt from this book really helped to relax me, made me feel confident and capable, and meant I was able to give birth to Teddy without any pain relief. I made James read it as well and it felt wonderful to know he was on the same page as me. He even recorded some of the hypnobirthing tracks and affirmations for me (which are at the back of the book) so I could listen to them in the weeks leading up to Teddy’s due date.



2.      What to expect when you’re expecting by Heidi Murkoff

This book has a whole wealth of information and is broken down into months and trimesters so I felt like I could dip in and out of it as and when needed. I found it particularly exciting to read in the early months when not much is happening on the outside (despite a whole load of morning (all day) sickness) to read all of the wonderful things which are happening on the inside. I also found it useful for when anything cropped up during pregnancy that I did not know anything about or was unprepared for- I could use the index to find the information about most things. For example, I had no idea I was rhesus negative and what that meant regarding anti d injections, etc, and felt that I received very little information from the midwife I had at the time about it. I was really glad to find information in this book about it. It also had a page of ideas and strategies to help turn the baby if they aren’t in the ideal position which I used when I discovered Teddy was breech.



3.      Dogs, Bumps and Babies: Preparing your Dog for Life with your Baby by Aileen Stevenson

I found this book really useful in preparing Toby for Teddy’s arrival. This was crucial as I knew Toby was going to be very much still in puppy then adolescent mode whilst Teddy was still small. There are some excellent suggestions in this book which I think really helped. For example, playing baby crying sounds- starting off quiet and gradually building to louder and rewarding Toby for ignoring the sound has meant that from the very beginning he was not fazed by Teddy’s crying. Also playing baby sounds on my phone when wearing the sling/ in the baby carrier/ moses basket, etc and rewarding Toby for ignoring these objects meant that he was not interested in them at all. Taking Toby on walks with the pram before Teddy was born meant he got used to it really quickly. Those are just a few insights from the book that I found really useful, but there were plenty more.



4.      The Modern Midwife’s Guide to Pregnancy, Birth and Beyond by Marie Louise

Has some really good tips for the third trimester and preparing for birth (i.e. things like massaging your perineum to avoid tearing- the sort of stuff that no one really mentions or tells you about but can make a huge difference!).



5.      The Positive Breastfeeding Book by Amy Brown

Obviously this book is mainly useful if you do intend to breastfeed. This was my bible to all things breastfeeding pre-Teddy and during those first few months. Of course (and I quickly discovered this) you cannot learn how to breastfeed from a book. I read at least 4 books on breastfeeding, analysed the pictures, watched videos and I still really, really struggled the first few weeks. I just could not get it to the point where it was incredibly stressful and upsetting and Teddy actually lost a lot of weight in the first week- however, I feel this book is written in such a supportive way that even when I was finding it really, really, really tough and was just about to give up, I would read the section with advice on what to do if things are hard and it would really inspire and encourage me to carry on. I have now been exclusively breastfeeding Teddy for 8 months. There is also a list for partners in this book which gives them tons of ideas on how they can support their breastfeeding partner and make the experience somewhat easier. This is the best book I read on breastfeeding by far.



So that is my summary of the five books I found most helpful whilst I was pregnant with Teddy and I hope, if anyone reading this is looking for recommendations, that they find them useful too 😊

 

 

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