I am very aware that the majority of characters in my most recent WIP are female. I didn’t plan it that way- it just sort of happened. The fighter, the thinker, the puzzle solver, the helper, the decision maker, the caregiver, the villain- all female and all perceptive, thoughtful and clever. I suppose that is good in terms of developing strong female leads in YA fiction, but part of me is wondering if I am writing these characters because they are the characters I am comfortable with, the characters I understand, have experienced and seen in my everyday life and actually, the reason why I haven’t created a male version of them is because I don’t actually know what a male version of them would actually be like. I can’t create an honest portrayal of them because I don’t really, accurately know what men think and feel, I don’t know their shared experiences, so I am subconsciously avoiding it entirely.
Then it got me wondering, can we ever truly and successfully
write from the perspective of the opposite sex without having experienced what
it is like?
I thought back to books where I remember feeling distinctly
irritated by a male writer’s portrayal of a female character (I am sorry George
R.R. Martin but I am not always hyper aware of my breasts- they are just kind
of there and I don’t think about them most of the time!), and when I tried to
think about female writer’s portrayals of male characters or stories written
from their point of view, I couldn’t remember if I questioned how realistic and
true their thoughts and feelings were because, ultimately, I haven’t really got
a clue how a man thinks. I can guess. I can use models of the men in my life
and try to fit their reactions to things into the portrayals I am being given,
but I have no idea if it matches their inner thoughts and desires, the parts of
us we keep hidden. Maybe men do think that way, maybe they don’t. Maybe that is
a typical experience for a man, maybe it isn’t. I wouldn’t know.
I write female characters because I can relate to them, and
I guess there is nothing wrong with that, but I would love to hear of any
novels or books where writers have written from the perspective of a member of
the opposite sex and have done it in a relatable, believable and realistic way.
Let me know of any suggestions you might have in the comment box below.